Since my last VACKAR FAMILY post, things have changed dramatically. Our family is in a regular rhythm and it feels nice. Although Braxtyn's Mother is in the Army, he seems to be doing well. The first 4 weeks she was gone brought turmoil to his world. Brax was testy and trying to understand, with a 5 year old comprehension, what was going on in his world. Missing Mommy has to be tough! With strict discipline and tons of love, this kid is coming out of his shell! Kenzie and Gwire have been awesome in helping Brax with his transition. It's awesome to see the three minis bond.
I'd be lying if I said this has been EASY. Blayne and I have spent the last few months worrying about Braxtyn. Will he be ok? Will he know that his Mom loves him? Will he understand why she left? Will I do a good job filling in? The anxiety that comes with loving a child like your own and not wanting to step on Mom's toes was eating me alive. At the end of the day, and lots of prayers later, I realized that doing the right thing can never be wrong! The best thing is to love all three kids the same, discipline them the same and be consistent in our weekly routines. We talk about Brax's Mom daily and remind him of her love. I send her pictures and a monthly newsletter that she seems to enjoy. For now, Brax seems content here in our home. Knowing that at any moment, we will need to switch gears if he begins having an issue coping with his Mom's absence. But for now, God has shown us that HE is in control. HE knows what is best and questioning HIM is futile. Our family is closer than we've ever been. The kids seem happier than ever! I'm just such a worry wort and I just hope it continues.
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